Potty training for late bloomers?
Potty training is a real big deal for many parents. For some, it’s a matter of pride that their 2-year-old doesn’t have any accidents, though I really doubt. But if you have a successfully potty trained 2-year-old, then hats off to you and congratulations! Maybe this article isn’t for you!
My research showed bladder control vairies with a childs grwoth and development. A child younger than 12 months of age has no control over bladder or bowel movements. And in general most children do not gain full bladder control until they are 18-24 month old.
And potty training also means to be able to hold on a full balder else imagine running to the loo every 15-30-45 minutes with your baby? So I knew that it would not make any sense for me to push my 6-month-old to this routine, plus being all alone with no support I may not have the option to be consistent. Lastly, I was very happy with our gorgeous cloth diaper stash and cute bum. I stopped worrying and decided to wait when my child showed readiness. I know for sure that all kids are trained by 3-4 years of age, so starting late doesn’t delay it makes it much easier! Read on.
When to begin Potty Training?
I am talking about our experience with a 2 year here (25-month-old to be precise). I feel you should start when your child shows the readiness or willingness to use the potty seat. Just remember that starting early doesn’t necessarily mean you will finish the training early, maybe it will take you longer to reach that goal.
Also, it’s very important to avoid the training when you are expecting big changes like starting school, expecting a sibling, shifting city/house or even travel/vacation. Begin when you are sure you will have 2-3 consistent months at least to keep the momentum going. Now the difficult part – be patient and consistent.
Potty Training Readiness checklist
The first step for a successful Potty Training is to look for signs of Readiness. Your toddler will show behavioral, cognitive and physical signs that he/she is ready. Focus and do not ignore these important cues.
- The child should be able to stand, run steadily even better.
- Should be able to squat. Pull her underpants up and down herself.
- Has a full diaper in one go rather than peeing often means they are able to hold on.
- Gives a verbal or physical sign to go to the toilet to pee or poop.
- Dislikes dirty or full diapers or chooses to wear only simple cotton underpants
- Regular predictable time to pee/poo – usually after meals, nap times and certain gaps.
- Shows signs of independence and is not resistant to the training.
- Feels accomplished when finishes her task and takes pride.
Tips to help a not so co-operative Toddler?
Some moms told me how they were finding it hard to convince their toddler to actually sit on the seat until they finish their job. I have been through that stage and boy, it tests your patience. But here are simple ideas to make this work for both of you.
- Invest in right accessories -Pick the right toilet training equipment or adapter seat in advance and keep it available. Let your child be excited with this new toy! It should be secure, comfortable and if possible with handles. Even better let them choose a design. It makes it exciting for them. A colorful toilet seat is a bonus! We often talk about how many butterflies are printed on our pink seat. Conversation starter too, you see!
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- Familiarize – a toddler who has peed/pooped in the convenience of diapers may find it strange to sit on this new place one fine day and expected to do his job! So let them get familiar. You can allow them to sit with their clothes on to see how amazing/comfortable/exciting this can be! Tell them it’s only for the baby and not even the adults are allowed to use it.
- Demonstrate – The best way for girl moms is to show yourself how to sit on the seat and urinate. Vice versa for dads. Talk about the process, ending with the flush. My girl does her job just to get the chance to hit the flush! Else use colorful board picture books about toilet training and even their favorite teddy/toy to show how it’s done. Some parents use videos as well to show how older babies conveniently use the toilet.
- Make it special – I would keep some toys/things only in the toilet and Kenisha would get these only while she would be on the seat. She has some very silly fascination with random things like a plastic tub, a broken old toy which are now our “toilet toys”. Sticker sheets are again a great idea or their favorite books to flip through while they while away sitting on the seat.
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- Positive reinforcement – Children learn best when the association to a new task is positive and rewarding. Never push them if they are not willing to try. Allow time to familiarize and keep reinforcing how nice the new seat is and all the wonderful toys that await. IF they sit and get up, try after 20-30 minutes or as your intuition tells you to. Never leave a chance to praise them for the smallest progress they show. Do not be disappointed when they have an accident but just remind them about how it’s done.
We are still on our journey to a successful toilet training. My daughter is diaper free at her play school as well as home. We still use disposable for outing and bedtime but now that we have begun there is no turning back.
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